Friday, March 16, 2012

the frenemy you can't escape

She's a bit of a bitch, and often a victim. She irritates the hell out of me most of the time. I mean, I like her well enough when she's herself, but then sometimes she's just so ... HER. She comes across as charming, until you cross her, or she's tired, or The Oldest does something that takes her somewhere between 2 days and a lifetime to get over.

She's been told she's an enabler, though she doesn't even really know what that means. She wonders if she might be co-dependent ... she actually doesn't know what that means either. She often over-thinks.

She means well. Has all the best of intentions. Used to hope against hope that she'd someday win a Mother of the Year Award. She won't. It's too late. But she's learning. Reading. Talking to those more expert.

The biggest problem is, there's no escaping her - she's everywhere I go and in every relationship I'm in.

The most difficult challenge I have in life and in relationships is getting off my own back. I've done what I've done with what I knew at the time. I've never ever ever given up.

And no, I'm not perfect, but I'm growing. I don't know what the outcome will be, but I know this particular story is not nearly done.
Scintilla Prompt 3:

What's the story of the most difficult challenge you've faced in a relationship? Did you overcome it? What was the outcome?


  1. This is really well done, I was so ready to get mad at her for a second. I can say I have been in the depths of addiction, and enable or not, he makes his choices. You have to be you, and when he is ready, or able, he will know that his mother loves him.

  2. Thanks, Jason. I try to remember that that's enough. It was fun to have fun with this one ... and say what I honestly think of 'that chick'